Recently I've come across a couple of stories which raised doubts about how important all the wedding-day details really are. Here's an excerpt from Leigh Michaels' Backwards Honeymoon:
They'd talked to the judge and set up an appointment for midmorning on Friday - just thirty-six hours off now. What else was there to do?Jayne Ann Krentz's short story, Congratulations, You've Just Won, also suggests that the wedding preparations might get in the way of thinking about marriage. I liked it, and although it's very short, I think it's a perfect example of Krentz's 'voice'.
How different this was than the circus atmosphere surrounding the wedding she'd run away from. No fancy gown and veil to be fitted one last time, no Antoine to fuss with a dozen possible ways to do her hair, no ushers and bridesmaids to entertain, no platinum and diamond rings to have sized, no reception menu to need final approval...
She wondered idly if the real reason for all the traditions surrounding weddings was simply to keep the bride too busy to think. Without dresses and hair and attendants and rings and food to worry about, a woman had a lot more time to wonder if she was crazy to get married at all. (2002: 218-219)
And while we're on the topic of thinking more about the wedding day than the marriage, I thought I'd mention this list of Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying from The New York Times. Michele Weiner-Davis notes that 'Rumor has it that' this article, 'a Dec. 17, 2006, New York Times list of 15 key questions, was the second most e-mailed story at NYTimes.com last year and the third most read article on its Web site for 2006' and she offers her own advice about things couples should be thinking of before the wedding.
So how do you feel about weddings? Is the wedding day 'the best day of your life'? Can you expect to have a 'perfect day'? Did you know that some people are spending so much on their weddings that they're also taking out insurance to cover costs should there be any 'unexpected hiccups'? It's worth noting, though that 'insurance policies don't cover cold feet. So if you get ditched at the altar, it will be your finances, as well as your heart, that is broken'.
- Michaels, Leigh, 2002. Backwards Honeymoon (Richmond, Surrey: Harlequin Mills & Boon). This is a large-print edition.
Clipart from the Bridal Association of America's Free Wedding Clip Art collection.